We had a great Thanksgiving this year, because all my kid were with me. Just to see them together was a blessing in itself, since children of divorce parents often left struggling between houses. They also had no voice until they were old enough to make their own decision.
We ate our feast of turkey, stuffing, green bean casserole, smoked ham hock collar green, soup, and asparagus. Even the fussiest person enjoyed the dinner without much complains. We played speed scrabble after dinner, and just hung out.
We had two days of happiness without a care or bother, but as for life goes, it wouldn't be for long. My littlest boy's birthday is next weekend, which fall into his dad's time, so the X texted me for the details of the event. Since I have paid for all of my boy's soccer and basketball, I asked him to pick up the expenses. He agreed, holy cow, and without the regular torments.
I knew he was up to something, and sure enough he bluntly tells me that he will bring his new "bedmate" to the party. This announcement shot right into my nerve! It is bad enough for my boy to have to deal with the dad's new toy every few weeks, now at his own birthday party too?
Ooh..I lost my cool and told the X to stop forcing this "aggressive black cloud" down our throat. Is that really too much to ask when I all I wanted is a piece of space, my own space, without them always bug in and hang over me? They have their world without any interference from me. Why in the hell that I can't have mine?
It is a little boy's birthday for him and his friends, for peace's sake; not a freak show!!!
There is no situation to win or lose here if you ask me. When they have my son to celebrate whatever, I don't insist on being there, and if you don't get it after reading this, here is the conclusion: I want my own space in my own world too! Two hundred miles of separation is not far enough?
It makes me ill to think that these two are brainless, inconsiderate, aggressively forcing themselves into my world, and think that they have a right to it. They don't!!
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